Just two weeks ago our family suffered the unexpected loss of my son-in-law, whom I affectionately referred to as my ‘son-in-love’. We’re a very close-knit family and are still enduring the pain of losing him while learning so many things at the same time. As we celebrated his life, my eyes were opened in so many ways. And though this was a sad time for our family, I felt God showing me things that I needed to be reminded of.
One of the first things I learned was that sad times often bring people together. I received calls, texts, messages from all over the world of people expressing their love and condolences. Many of them did not know much of my daughter or son-in-love, but it was their relationship with me that was the driving factor.
Some of them were people that I haven’t heard from in a long time. But the depth of our relationship stood the test of time and the outpour of love was a beautiful reminder that I wasn’t alone during this journey.
The second lesson learned was the power of our influence. During the celebration of my son-in-love’s life, I was proudly overwhelmed at the number of people whose lives he positively impacted…people from all ethnicities and walks of life. The words and testimonies of how he touched their lives was indicative of his strong faith in God. Let’s never forget how our lives leave an imprint for God’s glory.
A third revelation is the importance of celebrating people. Learn to love and celebrate the good in people now, and let’s not wait until a tragedy happens to rejoice in how special they truly were. Fortunately, I believe my son-in-love knew how much we valued him and who he was in the lives of others.
And lastly, I was reminded to be very intentional about enjoying and appreciating one another. I think we subconsciously take one another for granted…we never expect that other person to be removed from our lives any time soon. But even scripture tells us that we do not know what will happen tomorrow, and that our lives are just a mist that appears briefly and then vanishes (James 4:14).
We should resolve disagreements quickly and not allow arguments and grudges to reign over our relationships. I am extremely grateful that for the many years of my relationship with my son-in-love, that we’ve never had a contentious moment. Just imagine what it would have been like if we were at odds with one another at the time of his passing?
If you’re experiencing a contentious relationship at this time, resolve it…time is too short. Husbands and wives, be deliberate in settling issues between you. And come back together in love as you model Christ and His Church through your relationship.
As you read this, be reminded of how much you’re loved by God and the wonderful people whom He has surrounded you with…you’re never alone!
Stay safe, stay healthy, and be blessed!